Do you ever feel like you have had a charmed life before because this one is FUBAR?

MAJ Ken Landgren — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:21:52 -0500

I don't know if mortal men can survive the soup sandwich I am eating.

What do you say about your experiences?

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 15 at 2016 1:26 PM

CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:26:32 -0500

If I understand your question correctly, I would have to say without a doubt I have had a charmed life and been blessed well beyond anything I deserved. Even at times when it seemed FUBAR there was always a way to overcome the obstacles I was facing.

Response by SFC Pete Kain made Jan 15 at 2016 1:33 PM

SFC Pete Kain — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:33:29 -0500

If anything I say the opposite. This life despite the problems has been going ok. My past lives had to have been totally FUBAR. I have dodged some major bullets.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 15 at 2016 1:36 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:36:10 -0500

MAJ Ken Landgren When we think we can't take anymore we can reassess by making a list of all the things we are thankful for. There are a lot of things we do and have in our daily lives we take for granted.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 15 at 2016 1:39 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:39:01 -0500

Well sir, my life was pretty good before, so I guess I can express kinship.
Oct 6th, 2014... the day my wife told me she didn't love me anymore. Three weeks earlier I was thrilled to be home from Africa.
It may have been a Fool's Paradise before, but it was one of my making.

Since, a lot of things have happened that have changed my outlook and my goals have had to be revised significantly. But I'll be ok. Eventually this mess will blow over and I'll have more to look forward to. Survival mode until then, though.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 15 at 2016 2:32 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 14:32:25 -0500

MAJ Ken Landgren, Our lives changed dramatically after one of our sons was killed in an auto accident in 1994. My wife makes it through each day as best she can. I'm very supportive of her, but some days she's not very happy, and she snaps at me. I blow it off as best I can. I know, had our son not died, life would come back into her eyes and we would all be happy, like we were before. Some days it's me acting unhappy. We keep trudging on, making each day the best we can, and continue turning it over to God. That's all we can do.

Response by 1SG Steven Stankovich made Jan 15 at 2016 3:15 PM

1SG Steven Stankovich — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 15:15:46 -0500

I have to tell you MAJ Ken Landgren, it may sound corny, but I owe the life that I have to the Army. I joined the Army after graduating high school and a half of a semester of college. I met my wife of almost 19 years while stationed at Fort Knox, I've had two boys born at two different military installations, I've lived all over the states and the world, was fortunate to lead men in combat and bring them home, complete a college degree, and so much more. While there have been times that have been absolutely FUBAR, I wouldn't trade in any of the experiences that I have been fortunate to have.

Response by SCPO Charles Thomas "Tom" Canterbury made Jan 15 at 2016 4:03 PM

SCPO Charles Thomas "Tom" Canterbury — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 16:03:02 -0500

@MAJ Ken Landgren - I think we all feel that way at one time or another. Especially coming back from a combat deployment and starting a new assignment. What I hated about my time down range was that one minute you're focused on a mission or on patrol and the next thing you know you're back home wondering what just happened.

Starting new assignments you don't quite feel a part of the team yet and all the anticipation for your new duty station is summed up by the realization that you have new problems and new struggles and they are not comfortable to you. It makes you miss the known specters that you had at the previous duty station.

I have found that one just needs to take a deep breath, relax, build a routine and find a healthy way to blow off steam. Mine has been my iPod and some cardio...

Response by CPT Jack Durish made Jan 15 at 2016 4:18 PM

CPT Jack Durish — Fri, 15 Jan 2016 16:18:35 -0500

I love the country song "Thank God for Unanswered Prayers". I prayed for my first marriage to recover and endure. To be honest, I was devastated when my ex left me, especially when she went into hiding with my kids (not from me but rather from her boyfriend who was a con on a work release program from a federal pen and was after her for ratting him out to the cops). I thought there was no hope of ever being happy again when, in fact, her decisions gave me a real chance at happiness. I am now approaching my 40th year with the woman I met after gaining my freedom while my ex is languishing alone after a second failed marriage and countless failed relationships with other men and women. I not only thank her for my freedom, but also for teaching me to truly appreciate my wife.