Do you believe that some civilian women won't make sacrifices in a relationship by respecting that some disabled vets receive psych support?

2017-12-19T04:40:54-05:00

It seem the more I am honest the more confused they get. Or am I just meeting damaged goods already. The girls who would be attracted to me have trauma already in there life.

Response by PO2 Rev. Frederick C. Mullis, AFI, CFM made Dec 19 at 2017 3:13 PM

2017-12-19T15:13:05-05:00

I can believe that, There are a lot of damaged goods out there, and many know they are damaged, they refuse to get help. After I divorced my 1st, because she refused to go to Counseling with me and a few dozen other reasons. I met a delightful lady, who was damaged goods but I knew about it and was ok with it and was willing to help her with it. I even bought a book to allow us to work through rough areas on the road. She thought I was nuts to want to help her that much, she eventually walked away from me when she realized that she was not good enough for me. (Her words not mine). Go figure. My wife is also damaged goods, her x tried to kill her, I accept it all and it has only made her stronger. She knows my problems and accepts me.
Keep Looking, when you find the one, that is meant to be, You will know.

Response by Susan Foster made Dec 19 at 2017 5:24 PM

2017-12-19T17:24:12-05:00

First of all, I want to commend you for seeking and getting help. It's extremely brave of you, and so many people won't (including those who haven't served). I got counseling for PTSD after 9/11, but I'm sure you had experiences much more difficult. So I am offering this as a woman (and a coach): I'd recommend you work on yourself to become as emotionally healthy as you can, before you look for someone in a relationship. We usually attract people like us, and when I look back and see difficult relationships I realize it was things in me that attracted them. If I could change one thing, it would be to not get into a relationship before I was ready, and never ever quickly. I agree with MSG Ojedo not to share/reveal much quickly, also. I have always heard we are the sum of the 5 people we are closest to, so try to hang with people who are also as emotionally healthy as you, or at least working on it seriously. If you do, I promise you the right person will come along.