Posted on Aug 16, 2019
Can Soldiers attend all of their child's EFMP appointments?
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I have a soldier that is in the process of getting divorced, but also has a child who gets sick "a lot". The child is in EFMP, can this soldier attend ALL of their child's appointments (multiple times a week), even though it is starting to take them away and affect thier everyday work life? What are your experiences when dealing with this type of situation. I don't want to accuse them of malingering but c'mon, soldier's do soldier things.
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As a leader i would try to work with the SM as much as possible, but let it be known that if the mission/workload does not allow it that the SM would still have to work.
Another thing would be to request all scheduled appointments in advance and plan them out so you can still schedule the SM workload accordingly.
Lastly, look at the SM's family care plan and see who the provider is etc, for when "emergencies and illnesses" sprout up.
Another thing would be to request all scheduled appointments in advance and plan them out so you can still schedule the SM workload accordingly.
Lastly, look at the SM's family care plan and see who the provider is etc, for when "emergencies and illnesses" sprout up.
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LTC Jason Mackay
I would also consider the condition of the family member. Just because they are EFMP, doesn't mean that the condition is expectant or terminal. You can be EFMP simply because you require services, like for juvenile Diabetes.
If the child has a condition where they are not expected to live, I would be inclined to let them go. The little time they have left may make all the difference in the world.
If the child's mobility and condition require both parents To get them to and from, I'd be inclined to let him go. The range of conditions is wide.
If the child requires continuous attending for daily care, you need to get them to ACS/FAP and check into respite care and other services they're eligible for to give them little breaks so they don't break. It can be exhausting with no let up.you have to ask. As a GC, I had a Senior Navy Chief with a child that was wheelchair bound and required breathing assistance...they were never enrolled in EFMP. Didn't know what it was. We got them fixed up, got them accessible quarters, respite care, etc. made a huge difference for them.
The question may be regarding end state. If this is a managed condition that has a steady state for the child's health, you may have to have the tough delicate conversation about what he is going to choose. Talk to the soldier. He may just be overwhelmed and need your help.
If the child has a condition where they are not expected to live, I would be inclined to let them go. The little time they have left may make all the difference in the world.
If the child's mobility and condition require both parents To get them to and from, I'd be inclined to let him go. The range of conditions is wide.
If the child requires continuous attending for daily care, you need to get them to ACS/FAP and check into respite care and other services they're eligible for to give them little breaks so they don't break. It can be exhausting with no let up.you have to ask. As a GC, I had a Senior Navy Chief with a child that was wheelchair bound and required breathing assistance...they were never enrolled in EFMP. Didn't know what it was. We got them fixed up, got them accessible quarters, respite care, etc. made a huge difference for them.
The question may be regarding end state. If this is a managed condition that has a steady state for the child's health, you may have to have the tough delicate conversation about what he is going to choose. Talk to the soldier. He may just be overwhelmed and need your help.
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Look the SM and the unit are going to have to balance kids appointment vs. mission/readiness. I seriously doubt the SM can make all the appointments, and they better have a plan quick. We dropped 25k of Sm's for not being deployable this last year.
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