anybody else having issues trying to convince your spouse to move to a different state for work?

PFC Grant Simpson — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 21:22:13 -0500

im having issues trying to convince my wife to move so we will have a better chance at finding work. anybody else come across this?

Response by SFC Rocky Gannon made Dec 23 at 2013 9:23 PM

SFC Rocky Gannon — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 21:23:15 -0500

No but you need to show her the jobs in other states, that way she knows they are there and not just moving

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 24 at 2013 8:15 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 24 Dec 2013 20:15:43 -0500

Everytime a PCS has come up in a discussion, this is a big issue, and it is a valid issue. However, you need to remember that the resilience you have built during your tenure in the military is much stronger (usually) than your civilian spouse. You need to take the PC off and be a supporting and understanding husband when it comes to family issues, it will work better (trust me ive learned) .

Response by 1SG Michael Blount made Dec 26 at 2013 12:02 AM

1SG Michael Blount — Thu, 26 Dec 2013 00:02:43 -0500

Yes. In my case, separation followed by divorce was the answer. That's the ultimate atomic bomb, but sometimes the only COA available

Response by PO2 Pete Haga made Dec 26 at 2013 12:13 AM

PO2 Pete Haga — Thu, 26 Dec 2013 00:13:08 -0500

I lived in Illinois for 30 years before I could get my wife to leave that state. Started working on her year 1 to move to Florida. I finally told her I was moving to Jacksonville Florida and she could come if she wanted she said yes and now says why didn't we do this a long time ago . if you are serious about moving put your foot down and let her know what you think and show her the upside to where you want to move. She is probable scared of the unknown and moving away from family and friends let her know you will take care of her and things should work out. Good Luck!