How to talk to my civilian employer about their constant need to assume I have underlining issues due to my service?

It sounds like they could use some ESGR info regarding training and deployments of the National Guard. I know one of my previous jobs certainly did. Constantly scheduling me on drill, trying to get me to call out sick to the Guard so I could work a shift. They even thought I was quitting when orders came up for a month long in state training. We had weekends off and many received authorization to "moonlight" back at their jobs so they didn't lose out on too much pay. I did not tell them I had weekends off, the training was a nice vacation.

I ended up leaving another job for more pay, but one of my issues I left on my letter of resignation was how I had been targeted by some co-workers telling me my military service was offensive. I seldomly talked about my service at work, and when I did only with two other people. One of whom was a Navy Veteran and another who was in the Marine Reserves, and only during lunch or break periods when we weren't engaged in our duties. I found out later the other two military affiliated employees also quit.

I currently have a scheduling issue where I am placed on certain shifts or given certain rundown vehicles in the fleet because I am viewed as less likely to complain about poor conditions because of the military. While that's somewhat true, I don't view a Civilian occupation as being equal to military conditions in training or on deployment and as such I shouldn't be treated worse just because I have some military experiences.

I usually roll with it, but eventually I end up having conversations about it. I maintain a respectful demeanor... 99% of the time... Lately I just end up moving on rather than sticking it out. Trying to find my place in employment I suppose. I'm not some rambo door kicker and I don't pretend to be, I'm proud of what I've done and who I've served with, but there are definitely some misconceptions about what we do and our mental state. Then you add the Guard and Reserve to that and employers get weird if not down right stupid.

Wish you luck and hope it works out well for you.

Some people only support the military in public.

Sorry for your troubles at work. I am reminded of an old saying, "If I have to explain it, you wouldn't understand anyway". Civilians don't have it in their makeup/mindset. You could file a Federal EO complaint, probably not a good idea. Or have Him come over and watch a couple of truthful combat movies over a few beers, to maybe get Him thinking in a different light. I grew up in the military, Army Brat, my point of view is much different than many of my acquaintances, that's life, so I live it. Good Luck.