Posted on Feb 28, 2015
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They usually roll out before I get a chance to thank them. Then I leave the waitress/waiter a nice fat tip that is usually the cost of the meal.
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I do the same thing CSM.

I also quietly purchase meals for fellow veterans when I see them. I remember sitting in IHop one morning when a group of 3 came in. At first I thought it was a softball team with the matching shirts, they were seated in the booth behind me. Over the course of my meal I caught tidbits of their conversation and realized that they had all served together in Afghanistan and were getting together to remember 2 members of their team they had lost that day 2 years ago. I was moved by their camaraderie and quietly told the waitress to put their bill on me. I left shortly after and got on my bike and rode out...only to be passed about 10 minutes later by the guys who all offered a quick hand salute and rolled by.

CVMA ~NoS~
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I say thanks, of course tell them it is not necessary and as CPT Ahmed Faried suggested, I have always asked them to join me, so that I can learn about them, and they about me (although as with many of the other experiences, I do not often get the chance).

What I do after though, is I will always seek out a veteran (in uniform or out, if I can identify them, especially WWI, Korea or Vietnam Vets) and I will buy them something -- coffee, maybe pay their bill at the newsstand stores...something.

I do not think I do this enough, but I want to be on the other end of this question. I want to buy for all veterans and then hopefully get to meet them and find out more about them. But then I'll also do the same sometimes for random civilians.

Maybe I am just atoning for my past transgressions...
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I thank them - if afforded the opportunity.
Only once have I had the opportunity to have them join me for a post-meal conversation. I think the connection mattered very much to the very shy and unassuming elderly gentleman who had lost his oldest son in Vietnam many years before. He told me a bunch of things he wished he would have had a chance to say to that young PFC, 40 years earlier.
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