Posted on May 26, 2018
What are some tips on how to do my absolute all in my career field while maintaining a new marriage?
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For a bit of background, my husband and I have been together almost 7 years now. I want to strive to do all that I can such as volunteering for any and every opportunity that comes my way to make BTZ and pursue mortuary affairs or search and recovery. My problem with this is that my husband is not doing well with the separation that's happening at the moment. Two months of basic training and almost two months of technical school have left him feeling very isolated and overwhelmed, and I hate to see him like this but I cannot do much from where I am. I don't want to sacrifice my career or my relationship, so are there any programs for active duty spouses that could help him with this rough transition into the military? He's a very shy and introverted person, but even a once a week get together with similar people would at least get him out of the house and out of his head.
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There are spouses groups. Have him check with the family support center. Maybe he would be interested in coaching a kids' sport or taking a class of some sort. There are lots of options.
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My wife and I were in the Army together, and we retired together. My advice is to prioritize what you need to do, and consider paying for some things to give you more quality time together.
My wife and I attended a seminar called "7 habits of highly effective Army families". It was sponsored by the family support office of my command in Germany. This was helpful. We also attended a seminar sponsored by the command chaplain called the "5 love languages". This was also extremely helpful. It was hard when I was at the Sergeants Major Academy and my wife deployed, as I became a single parent for a year. But I survived. It did cost me a bit when she finally met up with me in Germany and she felt a need to redecorate the "bachelor pad" I had created.
My point is, if you try hard every day, your relationship will not only survive, but thrive.
My wife and I attended a seminar called "7 habits of highly effective Army families". It was sponsored by the family support office of my command in Germany. This was helpful. We also attended a seminar sponsored by the command chaplain called the "5 love languages". This was also extremely helpful. It was hard when I was at the Sergeants Major Academy and my wife deployed, as I became a single parent for a year. But I survived. It did cost me a bit when she finally met up with me in Germany and she felt a need to redecorate the "bachelor pad" I had created.
My point is, if you try hard every day, your relationship will not only survive, but thrive.
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They do have military family support groups contact your Military Support Agency they will help you
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