Can someone be placed on the EFMP without their knowledge?

I had to go into the EFMP coordinator and get my daughter added and I think I had doctor letters but I can't remember what all I did. But I definitely went in myself to have her added. So that's a clerical error I agree.

In the Army , no
Each service does it a bit different but all are supposed to follow a DOD process..
And under that DOD process, NO, it takes service member involvement.
The AF EFMP enrollment process should in no way allow for a member and dependent to be enrolled without member knowledge
AF process https://www.usafservices.com/Home/SpouseSupport/SpecialNeeds.aspx
"EFMP enrollment is mandatory and required immediately upon identification of a special need. The required forms for enrollment are:

DD Form 2792, Exceptional Family Member Medical Summary for medical issues only, and;
DD Form 2792-1, Exceptional Family Member Special Education/Early Intervention Summary for educational issues. "


Now the hard part.... It may have been a simple clerical error to get you enrolled, it will take much more to get you off EFMP>

Likely a medical visit for the dependent that is enrolled, clearing them medically (or educationally) of the condition for which "enrolled"

AF disenrollment process

3.3. Disenrollment. Removal from EFMP is accomplished through retirement of the RegAF
member, majority age of the identified child in which they no longer qualify as a dependent,
divorce of the identified spouse, death of the family member with special needs, or change in
circumstance in which the identified special need no longer exists.
3.3.1. To initiate disenrollment from EFMP, the RegAF sponsor or adult family member
submits documentation of the change in status or condition to the SNC at the base of
sponsor’s personnel management function, who validates the change and that there are no
other family members who have special needs.
3.3.1.1. This documentation may be in the form of court documents, DD Form 2792, DD
Form 2792-1, updated medical summary from the treating specialist/provider or other
official/validated forms.
3.3.2. The SNC requests the MPS remove the ALC “Q” from the sponsor’s personnel
record. (T-1).
3.3.3. The SNC ensures the electronic case is archived in Q-base, and the SN file is closed
following HIPAA, Privacy Act, and MTF requirements. (T-0)

http://static.e-publishing.af.mil/production/1/af_sg/publication/afi40-701/afi40-701.pdf

Sir, that seems very odd. I am on the EFMP program, and there is a lot of paperwork involved in it. Not to mention getting all the Doctors Notes, etc... So, this has to be a clerical error. I know that it took a buddy of mine over a year to get his removed when he became separated and his wife has primary custody of his kid. I would have your HR look into this.